It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see ~ Henry David Thoreau

4 Kinds of People Who Get Away With Saying Horrible Things (But Shouldn’t).

We’ve all done it, made a horrible comment we wish we could take back. Before I became a mother I once asked a very pregnant friend who mentioned she was going to the beach, “Do pregnant women go to the beach?” “I mean I know they can but do they want to? What kind of bathing suit do they wear?” “The kind made for…

The Orlando Tragedy. What Finally Made Me Cry

After my city’s tragedy, the world’s tragedy, I didn’t cry. Oh my eyes welled up a little, but I was too shocked, too devastated, too in despair to fully release my horror. I could not cry because perhaps if I did, I might not stop. For years and reasons that no longer matter, I’ve learned to place layers of protective…

To Westboro Baptist: We Win

I’ve long been horrified by Westboro Baptist. On the continuum of LGBT haters, they spew the worst anti LGBT post tragedy bile imaginable with such Godly views as: they deserved it. WB is apparently “Orlando Bound” to protest, as they often do, at local funerals of victims of the Pulse tragedy. It goes without saying but it takes a special…

Remember. Advice to my daughter as she graduates high school.

Remember to stand tall. Shoulders back. Head up. Carry yourself with the spectacular you are. The world will treat you as you expect to be treated. You are mighty and deserving. Remember that humility is not the opposite of confidence. Humility is to ask, to listen, to learn and to grow. Remember to apologize. Do this. You must. Remember to…

Sometimes, we the people are just very wrong

There was a time when if my well-intentioned friends apologized for aging racists who said atrocious stuff, just to be polite, I pretended to agree with their lovable excuses. Forgive that generation for they know not what they say! They know. A few years ago my sixty-something neighbor, a nice but tiresome lady, showed up at my door to gently…

What I wish I’d had: Maternal mental health screening.

Image credit When I was pregnant nineteen years ago I wish my doctor had warned me I might be at risk for postpartum depression. Her words wouldn’t have freaked me out, they would have helped me cope when the darkness did indeed hit. I wish during my 6 week check-up (when I was at my private worst) my Ob-Gyn had…

It’s time the anti-poverty Pope blesses birth control.

It’s not easy to criticize the coolest Pope, ever. Pope Francis smiles for selfies, Tweets, says yes! to the Big Bang and evolution, waves from his popemobile and against tradition, washes (oh the horror!) the feet of women on Holy Thursday. I’m not Catholic but when this Pope speaks, I listen. I don’t expect to agree with everything he says but…

Lady writes in to insist on “natural roles” for women and men.

I had to do some serious deep breathing after I read this letter to the Orlando Sentinel. Diane wrote against women in combat, against women going against their “natural roles” in society: “However, feminists have shrilly begged for “equality” for so long, and now they have it; or do they? Not all women want it; nor do men. Equality is physically…

This Pope is dope

dope  adj. cool, nice, awesome   Title too flip for the highest Catholic? Just wait, some hip-hopper will pen a positive rap about Pope Francis.  He’s street. He’s of the people, all people. At least in tone, because when I stop swooning and take a look, his policies on church law haven’t changed. The Pope hasn’t reversed a single issue, birth control, abortion,…

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